US begins with "u"

​Not too long ago I told my girlfriend my husband + I are 'the best we've ever been...
 
Then proceeded to tell her about the argument we just had. 
 
Here's why one argument doesn't create conflict like it used to 👇🏼
👉🏼👉🏼 It’s letting go that it's a personal attack on you. ⚡️


Our life will never be void of friction. True thriving lies is in how you handle those moments & having your back through it all. 
 
I’ve been a “victim” most of my life (this quiz confirmed that I did, in fact, have a high victim saboteur), therefore pretty much all of our marriage. I was a pro at making every  argument & every moment he was on his phone mean something about me.
 
☕️ This created mornings of barely speaking after going to bed upset.
🌙 Waking up feeling unsettled because I'd said something below the belt.
💤 Showing up exhausted in my work (because of the above) getting barely anything crossed off my to-do list. 
 

Here’s what’s “better than ever” about us today: 

🗓The gap between our arguments/misunderstandings are bigger… less often. 

⚡️The time spent IN the yuck is shorter. No longer is a whole entire day lost. 

🌶 They’re spicy - not always the same flavor. This to me is huuuuge progress because for years -- I’m talking YEARS -- our arguments followed the same patterns, same rhythms, same triggers. 


🪞And this “better than ever” stage of our marriage is 100% reflective of my own relationship with myself (because “us” begins with “u”… to have a better “us” it starts with “u” 😉)
 

⚡️My times of doubting myself in my business  are fewer and farther between.
⚡️ I’ve stopped stomping around the house putting away the laundry and dishes  while simultaneously saying “I’m fine…. It’s fine…”
⚡️My time spent IN the dumps is shorter (and much more nourishing) 

⚡️And I’ve finally realized him being on his phone (or whatever it was that triggered me) didn’t mean he didn’t want to spend time with me ( I finally closed the loop on that victim-pattern was making me annoying to myself) 
 
So what does that have to do with running your own business?
 
Everything. 


 
Because to be an entrepreneur, especially in the online world,  is to be vulnerable… as vulnerable, if not more, as you are with your partner. With that may come occasional friction, tough moments, crappy feedback and victim patterns that you didn’t know were there. Your business is simply the catalyst to you meeting your next level you…. And therefore your relationships becoming next level “us.” 

 
As a coach, I can help you make things like:
 🦋 the lack of engagement on your posts
🦋 other person’s comments & opinions
🦋 how many people signed up for your masterclass
🦋 how much your partner is at work or on his phone, etc. mean NOTHING about you. 
 
 It’s the most freeing way to live (and it opens up the best business & marriage you’ll ever have 😉)