What if you're capable of working really hard?
There's this narrative I'm seeing out there that makes working hard look like you're struggling. You should always be in flow. It should always be easy and light. For some time I felt shame that I DO work hard in my business. Like I was bad, wrong or failing because I put my nose down and focused and that I wasn't sipping lattes in coffee shops seeing Stripe payments flood my inbox just for existing.
While I don't disagree that loving what you do can create a high-vibe light & flowy work feeling, I also don't want to dismiss that it takes hard work to be a founder. It takes hard work to show up. But guess what? It's okay to work hard.
This is why Founder, a program that utilizes my proven 3-part Flourish Framework, is so vital to your willingness to work hard. I've opened up a process for you to allow yourself the space to get really clear on what it is you're doing currently and what it is you want to be doing.
When you get so clear and aligned with the work you want to be doing, then the hard work that inevitably comes along with it doesn't feel hard in a hustle sort of way, but hard in a tenacious, I am capable, sort of way. That's a huge difference. When you're aligned with your desires and create from that space, rather than from obligation, you are willing to show up to do what is required of you to bring your gifts to light.
In order to do that, it can start with one thought. We can think of thoughts like this: the sole purpose of a thought is to help us create a feeling that will ignite us to take action.
So, let's take my thoughts around my own coaching business as an example for how you can do this for yourself. In order for people to work with me, I have to create desire for them to want to. And in order to do that, I need to have thoughts that show people why this is desirable. When I think things like: people don't want this, then showing up feels hard. It would feel like a grind and hustle. That wouldn't be sustainable, and it wouldn't sell.
So, I had to get really clear with myself as to why I put this out into the world. My why was this: I want to create 100 resignations (this is my big audacious goal for 2023). If I want to. create 100 resignations.
Knowing that is my desire I then I needed to create a pool of thoughts that would allow me the willingness to work hard and show up. Some thoughts I created were:
After creating these thoughts that aligned with my desire, I then read through them & paid attention to my body. Some of them felt stale, some of them felt numb. They didn't activate me. But then I noticed what happened to me when I read the thought:
Everyone wants to love what they do.
That thought created a jolt within me. I felt a charge from that thought, and the charge of that thought was certainty. I believe in my bones that people want to love what they do. They want to love how they spend their time, and they want to do the work that fulfills them so they can put their head on their pillow at night and say, wow, I did that today. Or when they wake up in the morning, they can put their feet on the ground and say Let's go day. God woke me up today, so I'm going to live.
That one thought makes showing up to talk about coaching easy for me. It removes the resistance in my brain to the things that will inevitable come up that i don't really like to do... like editing this post. Not my favorite thing to do, but if it helps a woman love what she does, I am willing to take the time do that.
So here's a rundown of how the process goes:
1) Decide how you want to feel.
2) Create thoughts that creates that feeling.
3) Look at your list of thoughts, while paying attention to your body. Which one evokes the feeling you desire?
4) Choose that thought- that is your anchor thought.
That makes working hard, well, easy.
So again, I ask what if you're actually capable of working really hard? Take yourself through this process & see what sort of anchor thoughts supports your desire.
Listen to episode #16 of the What If podcast here.
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