In the last year or so I’ve dabbled with “sober curiosity.” In other words, I discovered why I drink when I do, that sometimes I really don’t feel like it, how much feels okay to consume and how often, and the things I do for the sake of “fitting in.”
I’m not 100% sober nor do I intend to declare that I will be.
I'd say more along the lines of 90% is.
What I am now is 100% in control of my choices.
Now when I have a glass of wine I have it because I WANT it, and not to go along with the crowd. I choose the WHOLE experience… not just the in-the-moment beverage, but all that I know comes along with choosing to drink or not drink.
I've also found, just like coffee, it's the first sip I love the most. And then the rest is extra. Knowing that has revealed to me it's not necessarily the alcohol I want to consume, but rather the flavor.
Last week I was an event with a networking happy hour to follow. Wine, cocktails & mashed potato bar (yess yumm!) to end the day.
Seeing the line to get the drinks paired with the 1.5 hours drive ahead of me only reinforced that I already felt like — to not drink. I just wasn't feelin' a glass of wine.
So I chose not to, and I comfortably socialized with those who were & were not choosing to have drinks.
It felt so good.
It FEELS so good to be in this place of “I can if I want to, but I don’t have to.”
Then, on my drive home my husband called - there was a toddler tumble down some steps, so straight to the ER I went to meet up with my crew. It was a scary call to get. Update: all is good— just extra precautions & peace of mind.
In that moment, sitting with my little lady waiting to get checked out I was so glad to feel clear. I felt grateful for choosing. I am fully taking the reigns in choosing how I want to experience life - the fun days and the unplanned crisis moments of life.
I won’t lie and say that it’s all been easy. There's been some denial on my path, as well as some really interesting patterns brought to life. It takes awareness and with that awareness comes work & intentionality.
I want to let you know that it’s okay to experiment. And it’s oh so freeing to remember there are always options - “I could but I don’t have to” has been my favorite sentence of 2023 & alcohol has been my biggest flex in practicing that.
Do you want to take back control of your decisions? I can help you with that. If I’ve navigated this with one of my favorite beverages - wine - then I’m confident we can help you with all that comes along your path, too.
Short answer: Shift from dreamer to do-er.
Long Answer: This blog post below. Read on: & get happier!
Right now you're likely generating a lot of really awesome ideas & that feels exciting to you. They're lighting you up & giving you this dopamine hit. And that's about as far as it goes.
When it comes to the action & execution - the how - you freeze. You don't move forward. Why? Because you're so exhausted from your idea excitement that you don't have any actual energy left to do.
However, when you allow yourself space and time each day to get clear on what it is you really want to create - and actually slow down the process rather than just straight to excitement - you have an even great ability to create, and in turn have a bigger dopamine hit because you become a person who isn't just lit up with ideas, but instead becomes completely satisfied with what they have brought to life.
This is where Flourish comes in. It's a 3-step proven process that I walk people through in Founder, a self-paced 30 day journey where you allow yourself space and time to fill in the blank for: "I am the Founder of _____."
It's process that brings you from being a constant idea junkie to instead letting ideas come and go without attachment to the outcome. Then over 30 days, you'll see themes for yourself and it will become so clear on exactly what you'll take action on. And I'm not talking start & start again action... I'm talking action where you're aligned deeply with the purpose and vision that you won't want to stop taking action it until it's complete. Perhaps, for the first time in your life, you won't be a person who quits on yourself, and that is the hugest dopamine hit ever. That is where your character is built.
Founder is something to be experienced, not explained, just like the satisfaction that comes along with being a person who finishes what they started- a person who creates something from nothing.
There is magic inside the formula. And when you stop exhausting all your energy from constantly starting and stopping ideas and instead become clear of like the bigger picture & vision, that is when you get to become so proud of yourself.
You get to sit back and marvel. You get to say "yeah, I did that."
Maybe you are feeling good right now as not being the founder because you're getting ideas and these ideas are fun. But what if you could feel even better by delaying your dopamine and allowing yourself to actually execute an idea that you have and bring it to life,?
That is bold, and that is what you are capable of if you desire to become the founder.
Listen to episode #18 of the podcast:
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What if you've been committed to the struggle or committed to something that actually is not working for you anymore?
It's likely become so much easier for you to be committed to the struggle that comes along with playing small because you've become used to it and maybe you're pretty good at it.
But staying small and staying in the "safe zone" is actually getting really uncomfortable. You're starting to feel resentful, frustrated, annoyed, maybe even hating Mondays. That's uncomfortable... but it's unconscious uncomfortable. It's a discomfort happening to you rather than a discomfort you are choosing up front to pass through and inevitably have greater joy & ease down the road.
When you become a Founder, you choose discomfort, and it happens earlier on in the process. And they choose it every day and they sit with it. That is their growth. They choose for it to be a part of their process and they allow it.
Recently on a coaching call, my client was dealing with the discomfort of confrontation. To speak up early on the process of a project? Or to avoid discomfort of confrontation, keep her mouth shut and then have it catch up with her later on in the project lifecycle?
What was happening was she didn't want to confront the superiors in her project regarding the gaps and the flaws and the missing pieces that she saw early on in the project. So she shrugged them off. But what actually happened is she internalized a quite a bit of that which brought up feeling of annoyance and frustration. Instead of like allowing the early on discomfort and saying hey, have we thought about this? Have we considered this? I know you don't wanna hear this, but we're missing a key part of this project.
More than an unwillingness for herself to feel uncomfortable, she didn't want to be the one to create discomfort for others. To avoid their hard feelings, she wore them for herself. That is people pleasing 101. That is trying manipulate someone else's experience. Down the road that confrontation inevitably came up in the project because those gaps and those flaws caught up with themselves.
In having a conversation about this, and the gift of hindsight, she was able to see the power of making a choice next time. She was able to see that discomfort is likely a part of every project process and to avoid more discomfort in the long run she had to face the upfront discomforts that presented themself along the way, like speaking up even if it might make others uncomfortable.
When you're like the audacious, bold person, you choose discomfort and you choose it early on. Discomfort shows up with you no matter what.
Here a few key questions that you may notice you ask yourself when you're unwilling to face discomfort:
These what ifs are the things that have you avoiding becoming the founder, avoiding doing what you want. And then in turn, here's that Monday again that you're not loving. Here's like those weekends where you drink or you eat, you binge on ice cream on the evenings to escape the week.
The Founder is no longer committed to the same struggles. They're no longer committed to the same discomfort. They are instead committed to noticing that discomfort is going to be there, and they have a willingness to confront it and face it now instead of avoid it and know that it's going to catch up with them later on.
The Founder is no longer committed to the struggles that are keeping them small, but instead they're committed to facing the expansion that helps them play big. A
What part of you needs to let go of that to become the founder- the person who is willing to be committed to the struggles, the discomfort, the truth, the awareness that comes along with playing big?
Listen to episode #17 of the What If podcast here.
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What if you're capable of working really hard?
There's this narrative I'm seeing out there that makes working hard look like you're struggling. You should always be in flow. It should always be easy and light. For some time I felt shame that I DO work hard in my business. Like I was bad, wrong or failing because I put my nose down and focused and that I wasn't sipping lattes in coffee shops seeing Stripe payments flood my inbox just for existing.
While I don't disagree that loving what you do can create a high-vibe light & flowy work feeling, I also don't want to dismiss that it takes hard work to be a founder. It takes hard work to show up. But guess what? It's okay to work hard.
This is why Founder, a program that utilizes my proven 3-part Flourish Framework, is so vital to your willingness to work hard. I've opened up a process for you to allow yourself the space to get really clear on what it is you're doing currently and what it is you want to be doing.
When you get so clear and aligned with the work you want to be doing, then the hard work that inevitably comes along with it doesn't feel hard in a hustle sort of way, but hard in a tenacious, I am capable, sort of way. That's a huge difference. When you're aligned with your desires and create from that space, rather than from obligation, you are willing to show up to do what is required of you to bring your gifts to light.
In order to do that, it can start with one thought. We can think of thoughts like this: the sole purpose of a thought is to help us create a feeling that will ignite us to take action.
So, let's take my thoughts around my own coaching business as an example for how you can do this for yourself. In order for people to work with me, I have to create desire for them to want to. And in order to do that, I need to have thoughts that show people why this is desirable. When I think things like: people don't want this, then showing up feels hard. It would feel like a grind and hustle. That wouldn't be sustainable, and it wouldn't sell.
So, I had to get really clear with myself as to why I put this out into the world. My why was this: I want to create 100 resignations (this is my big audacious goal for 2023). If I want to. create 100 resignations.
Knowing that is my desire I then I needed to create a pool of thoughts that would allow me the willingness to work hard and show up. Some thoughts I created were:
After creating these thoughts that aligned with my desire, I then read through them & paid attention to my body. Some of them felt stale, some of them felt numb. They didn't activate me. But then I noticed what happened to me when I read the thought:
Everyone wants to love what they do.
That thought created a jolt within me. I felt a charge from that thought, and the charge of that thought was certainty. I believe in my bones that people want to love what they do. They want to love how they spend their time, and they want to do the work that fulfills them so they can put their head on their pillow at night and say, wow, I did that today. Or when they wake up in the morning, they can put their feet on the ground and say Let's go day. God woke me up today, so I'm going to live.
That one thought makes showing up to talk about coaching easy for me. It removes the resistance in my brain to the things that will inevitable come up that i don't really like to do... like editing this post. Not my favorite thing to do, but if it helps a woman love what she does, I am willing to take the time do that.
So here's a rundown of how the process goes:
1) Decide how you want to feel.
2) Create thoughts that creates that feeling.
3) Look at your list of thoughts, while paying attention to your body. Which one evokes the feeling you desire?
4) Choose that thought- that is your anchor thought.
That makes working hard, well, easy.
So again, I ask what if you're actually capable of working really hard? Take yourself through this process & see what sort of anchor thoughts supports your desire.
Listen to episode #16 of the What If podcast here.
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What, if you could say, I am the founder of, That is the goal and that is the intention behind founder. Founder is a program that I'm giving to you that uses my three part Flourish framework. It is a proven system, a proven framework that will help you get crystal clear on what it is that you want to become the founder of.
Because here's the thing, there is a founder in all of us. We are all capable people. We are all people who want to love what we do. And for some of us, we are very happy in our nine to five job and doing that and finding so much joy and fulfillment out of that. To you I say congratulations! Stay the path & celebrate that for yourself!
Then, there are others in this world who are fine at their job, they're satisfied-ish. But they know there's a rumbling inside of them that there is something more that they're meant to do, create, and be. There's something missing in their work that they desire to fulfill on their own individual way through their own creation from bringing something to nothing.
However, when people share this desire with me, when they share what it is that they want to do, that they want to be a founder, they also slow themselves down because they aren't so clear yet on what it is they want to create, which then stops them dead in their tracks because they're unable to see the how. Well, how will I become a founder? This is where Founder helps you. Founder is a slow-down on the what. It's an opportunity for you to become so crystal clear on what it is that you are going to be the founder of. So then the how comes easily. You inevitably do the things that Foudner calls you to do.
The framework used to help you get to this place of inevitable possibility is called Flourish. Think of it like a plant. You literally flourish into the founder. The three parts are the seed, the weeds & the sun.
Applying this practice for 30 days will take discipline and commitment. You'll also need to let go of perfection. You might not do it perfectly for 30 days, but what you are doing is you're opening up your mind to possibility.
You're opening up yourself to what is it that you like and desire to create. You'll also see what's stopping you, and how to ensure that no matter what you're going to create it anyway regardless of what the fears are, regardless of what your brain tells you.
The Story Behind the Name
I was having a conversation with one of my coaching clients who has been a longtime listener of the What If podcast. I had an interview a gal on here and she introduced herself as the founder of, and then she named her business.
My client shared "I was listening to your podcast & heard Haley introde herself as a founder. And in that moment I realized I want to be the founder. Someday I want to say I am the founder."
That's it. That's the story behind the title.
Not Having Is Not Wanting
One last thing I want to share with you is: not having is not wanting. You say you want to be the founder, except right now you're not. What that means, is that there is actually a part of you that doesn't desire this... likely rooted in fear. This is why the Flourish framework is so vital. It shows to you all the sneaking ways you actually don't want to be the founder, and when you see that you take back your power. You see what's been slowing you down... and then you get to decide. No, I actually DO what to be the Founder.
It helps you get so clear on your own uniqueness, your own God-given gifts and talents so that you can only want to create.
Open up your mind to a new world of possibility and ask yourself what if I could say, I am the founder of? What if you could allow that process of knowing what you're going to be the founder of to become accelerated. What if in 30 days from now you could say I am the founder?
We are going to accelerate your journey. We are going to help you become the founder that God made you to be. God woke you up today. Why? Why did God wake you up today to become you? To live out your life fully as you? And for some of you, you get that rich fulfillment in your job currently. And for that I say congratulations, like from my deepest, the deepest parts of me.
I say congratulations, because I know how it feels to be the person who isn't feeling that satisfaction & fulfillment in their work. I know how it feels to feel guilty that you should be fulfilled in what you do. I know how it feels to ask myself what's wrong with me? Why can't I just be happy at my job? Why can't I just be a person who is fulfilled in their work?
There is nothing wrong with you at all. The only problem is you haven't allowed yourself to deeply explore what gifts you're meant to share with the world
Allow yourself this experience. Allow yourself desire and discipline to bring this title to life once and for all.
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Here’s a saucy question to get yourself thinking: What if being nice isn’t actually that nice? First, let me tell you, I’m a “nice” person and I work with a lot of “nice” people. We’re good people. We want to do good in the world, help others, make this a more beautiful place, all while having this desire to be liked by everyone. That last part is when we get in our own way. That is when nice stops being nice. This is where we will start our journey together today. Being nice can be the very thing that is holding you back from your truest potential, and holding back others from theirs as well.
Here are three ways that being nice can be, well, not that nice and some journal questions to help you step out of nice-girl energy and into the fully-expressed bold you God made you to be.
3 Ways that Being Nice Really Isn’t That Nice
You Hold Back Your Own Gifts
When you have the desire to be liked and to belong, then being different than the rest or speaking up in a way that you haven’t before can make you feel at risk of standing out and create possibly of having people not like you. And as a person who loves to be liked, this can feel like one of the scariest things in the world.
What you’re really doing is you’re holding back your genius, expertise, vision, wisdom and innovate thinking skills to either help a person, improve a situation, or stand up for what is right. When you hold this back you could potentially holding back your job or your own business from helping more people. And my guess is, if you’re a nice person you’re also in the business of helping whether that be in your business or in your corporate job. So, this essentially is sabotaging the very values that you stand for, all for the sake of belonging to a crowd, feeling included and being liked. When you think of it that way… well… ouch, right? Not nice at all.
You’re Actually Kinda Pissed Off on The Inside
Nice people can be really good at performing. We put a smile on our face and go with the flow for the sake of remaining likealbe and “not rocking the boat.” While you’re hard at work appearing to be nice, on the inside you may be stoming around and throwing a fit. What’s happening inside the you really isn’t nice at all. You’re starting to get resentful, annoyed, frustrated, impatient and likely even extremely judgmental of the very people you are being “nice” to.
But again, you just want to be liked so you remain quiet and boundaryless. You don’t teach people how to treat you and instead keep going with it, until you can’t anymore.
This is where something I’ve called the Tolerance Scales come in. At first you can tolerate things like sitting in meetings where no decisions are ever made, talking in circles, offering feedback and having it not be heard, aksing your spouse to help with something and having no follow through. And then ever so slowly, the scales start to tip. Those meetings you didn't mind are now becoming the very thing you despise. And that leads us back to problem number one… you hold back your gifts. So at these meetings you either check out or you start thinking unkind thoughts about others in the room rather than using your brain for good and helping the greater cause. Or with your partner, instead of simply sharing why you’re frustrated you just let that list grow and grow in your head while you stomp about the house making sure they can hear every cupboard door you’ve closed.
Again… sooo not nice.
Your niceness is costing your job or your business time and money.
I coached a gal who was continuing to feel ongoing resentment and frustration in her workplace. The inefficiencies and lack of awareness were driving her crazy, but she had reservations on speaking out abou them. When I began to poke around the situation a little more and get deeper into it with her, she had this realization: “I don’t want to make a bunch of old men feel dumb.”
And let me tell you, this coaching client of mine is a smart, high achieving owman. That’s the thing with the people I work with, especially the nice ones. They are smart, efficient, talented, high achieving, innovative people. But yet, they also don’t want to appear to be too bold out of fear that is may come across as demanding, bitchy, or too much for those around them. Again, all pointing back to the desire to be liked.
But by this particular client keeping quiet about inefficiencies in the work place, she was potentially holding them back not only from big profits, but also valuable time and even bigger than that, quality employee retention.
As we flip the narrative of “I’m just a nice person” you can see how your niceness can be the very thing that is getting in the way of you playing big in this life where you know you’re meant to do, be and spread more good.
The truth is that you can be kind and speak up. In fact, being direct is the kindest thing that anyone could do. Could you truly imagine a world where we, especially as “nice people,” actually meant the words that we said? Imagine a world where we didn’t have 18 lays of hidden agendas, assumptions or unclear expectations behind the words we spoke out.
If you’re a nice person who is tired of tolerating the price of being nice-all-the-time grab a pen and paper to journal out you answers to these questions:
To take a deeper dive, listen to the latest podcast episode on this topic: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/kelly-mcintee/episodes/7--What-if-being-nice-isnt-always-nice-e21mspg
Some folks preach all about finding work/life balance. Some folks preach that balance just simply isn't an option.
Here's my perspective: peace. Where can you find and create work/life peace, cohesiveness, and harmony? Let go of the idea that the scales will be perfectly balanced between work and life because the truth is they're not that compartmentalized. Life impacts work, and work impacts life. So instead, let's tip the scales on peace. How can you find more peace, possibility, and ease in your relationship between work and life?
Here are 5 tips that will elevate your work/life harmony:
What’s going well right now? What is working and what feels good? Starting from these more positive-focused questions alleviates the feeling that there is so much to do and fix to make this work/life balance better.
We may actually have a lot of things going well, it's just hard to see when we're consistently telling ourselves things are hard or they aren't going well. When we’re in misery, misery is all we see. So allow yourself a second to lift the veil of misery and start with questions that shift your focus to what is working. Then you can begin asking yourself what the challenges are, and what would I like to do differently?
Notice areas where you feel "off" and ask yourself why. Awareness and slowing down to investigate a feeling can often give us the necessary answers, especially when we come from a neutral space. Perhaps it's asking for more help at home, more help with a work project, or it's letting go of a commitment. It could be something as simple yet profound as changing a thought around your circumstances. What are you thinking that's creating this "off" feeling?
3. Allow the help you ask for.
Ask for help, and then allow the help when you receive it. This one comes up so much for my coaching clients...control. We want to control the way the help helps. Instead, focus more on the result and less on the how. Is what you're needing help with getting fulfilled? If so, then allow the thought that there could be more than one right way to achieve what you're asking for help with.
4. Prioritize yourself on your calendar
Plan YOU first on your calendar before the rest. Before you put down your kid's soccer, the family get-together, or the evening work meeting, designate time for your schedule fills up. This one takes work and practice so give yourself grace here, and you can start small- maybe you start with just one 30-minute workout class/week or an art class once a month and then build up from there. Ask yourself what would I like to do for myself simply for the sake of fun & enjoyment? Allowing this can be life-changing.
5. Tend to your energy in the moment.
Slow down. Notice. Are you getting amped up with energy, jitters, and anxious feelings? It's okay. Just pause, close your eyes, and put your hand on your chest. Breathe in, breathe out. Say "be here now." Repeat, repeat and repeat again until calm is brought back to the body.
Are you ready to bring harmony to your life & business? I will help you find that!
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Not liking your job is tough. It’s where one spends the majority of their waking hours, so if it’s something that makes you feel miserable, that can feel… well... awful. We can try to find the positive and see the gifts we are getting from it as best we can, but at the end of the day, if it’s not the right fit it simply isn’t the right fit. And yet, so many people, myself included, find changing a bad-fitting job challenging, especially if it's one that started great and you have spent years of your life together. I lived my life in that place for years. The person who dealt with the brunt of it was my husband.
Here are three lessons I learned from doing something I did so often-- crying about my job to my husband.
1. Whining & doubting yourself isn’t cute.
Listen, I get it. I get how it feels to dislike your current circumstances — your job. I get what it feels like to cry when you’re getting ready for work mustering up the will to show up another week once again. I get how it feels to have your ideas feel like they’re constantly shot down, and your concerns not being addressed. And I get how it feels to simply need encouragement from your partner when you don’t feel like going anymore.
But eventually, the tears need to stop. They stop being cute. Their cue for sympathy stops working. They’re a starting point; they aren’t the solution. Eventually, the tears need to turn into you making a change, whether that’s changing your thoughts or changing your circumstance.
When it came to whining and doubting, I often did one or the other. Whining about the job that I so badly wanted to leave, and yet also when I had my solution right there in my hands — my coaching business — all I did was doubt that too. Doubting yourself, and then whining about doubting yourself is not cute. This is something I did all the time.
So there my husband sat, either being a shoulder for me to be miserable on or cheering me up to go all in on my business. He was in a damned if you do, damned if you don’t type of situation and I was the one putting him there. There wasn’t ever just the right thing he could say to make it all better.
That my friend is not cute. Eventually, the tears need to stop. Eventually, you need to stop being the victim of your circumstances and take charge and change things. Living a life from the space of things happening to you is unattractive. And that’s what I did for such a long time.
Instead, what is cute is saying enough is enough and taking one step at a time to change things. Perhaps it’s creating a LinkedIn account, updating your resume, or getting out a journal and getting clear with yourself on where you want to go, and what you want to do. Cute is taking care of yourself and creating what you want and no longer waiting for someone to make it all better for you.
2. You have to have your own back
At some point, my husband got sick of giving me what I wanted— a you-can-do-it speech — and he gave me what I didn’t know I needed. Tough love. I remember the conversation vividly. Another day, another round of Kelly whining about the job yet doubting she could make this dream job —coaching— work.
“Are you sure?” is a question I kept asking him. “Are you sure I can do this? Are you sure I can make this work?” He was good at answering the questions the way I wanted him to. Then one day he stopped. Instead, he answered the question the way I needed it to be answered. “Yes, I’m sure. We aren’t having this conversation again until you give your notice. I’m not doing this anymore. Either you do this thing and make what you want happen, or we stop talking about it completely.”
Yikes, right? Way to put the tough in tough love. But in all seriousness, that is exactly what I need to hear at that moment. That answer pointed out two obvious things to me that I had been missing:
3. I was putting too much on one person
Our partners can certainly be a person we talk to for literally everything in life, and they don’t have to be the only ones that we share things with. They don’t have to be the problem solvers of every little thing going on. When you put all that on one person, it can be a lot for them to bear. Yes, likely our partner is our best friend (or at least one of your best friends), but they aren’t your therapist. They have things going on that they could use some listening to as well. While our partners only want the best for us, they may not always be the best person to talk about these things with.
When I allowed myself to work with a coach and had a neutral space where I could have my thoughts and feelings heard, it changed my life. I started seeing how I was getting in my way and was also finally able to see my strengths, gifts, and abilities. She saw me. She heard me. And she reflected exactly what I needed to do the big, scary thing — leave my job. And the funny thing is that when I began allowing myself this space of growth, leaving my job wasn’t scary at all, it was simply the next inevitable right step.
If you're tired of crying to your partner about the job you're no longer feeling fulfilled at, reach out. I'm the boss at helping people quit their jobs because I have been through it all when it came to leaving my own. And I can help you leave yours! Schedule a free Focus Forward Consult here.
Recently, I was talking to a business friend of mine.
While we were on the zoom call I was folding the huge ass pile of laundry that had accumulated over the week. I was also sweating and hot from the shower I just rushed through to get ready for the next thing on my calendar and then the next thing… and then the next thing.
Several times during our conversation, I did that hand wave by your pits thing and say “whew! I'm so hot!”
My side of the conversation touched on all the things I was doing that I didn't really want to be doing. I definitely showed up as friend-Kelly rather than coach-Kelly (there's a difference y'all… Coach Kelly holds you up, questions the stories we tell ourself…. and friend-Kelly shoots the breeze with you and honestly has a whiney moment from time to time. What can I say? I'm human, too.)
During our conversation of just allowing myself to let my guard down she asked me this question which struck me to my core, and was probably the most permission-giving question I've been asked in a really long time. It was this:
Is it possible that you can take a chill pill for a little while?
I literally had never allowed myself to think of that as an option.
What if you just let yourself chill out for a day?
What if you just took a breath right here in this moment?
What if you just slowed the f down?
What if you just said no to the things you want to say no to?
What if you let white space take over your calendar a little bit?
What if you let yourself BE OKAY with the down time your body needs?
What if you didn't hit the gas so hard every damn day?
What if you stopped freakin' worrying?
What if you trusted?
Those are all of my questions that popped up from her lovingly blunt observation — "Kelly, just take a chill pill."
And here's the thing y'all…. whenever I'm experiencing something I know I'm not alone. In fact just last week I coached a client through the correlation of her fully-packed, demanding and exhausting schedule paired with a seven-pound weight gain. It's not coincidence these are happening at the same time for her. She too was experiencing what I am…. but her own way, and in her own version.
Want to know the craziest thing of all?
During this month where I've been feeling WOUND UP TIGHT I also sat down last night and realized this… this month has been my highest revenue month in my business. In other words, I'm actually doing alright. I don't need to be so wound up. It's working… it's all working, and it's all okay.
And you are too….. you are OKAY right where you are right now.
That stuff you worry about and stress out about… you're actually doing alright.
That thing that you think is a problem likely isn't. It maybe just needs a reframe. A new perspective does wonders for the soul.
So, today I'm getting real with and sharing my truth to say this-- you're not alone.
And, help me feel not alone too. Tell me…. what has been making you feel heavy, tight, full and just sort of tense lately? Reply. Share. Let it go, let it out, let yourself feel less alone.
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YOU ARE ALREADY THE SHIT!
This week, that is what came up as a potential title for my future everything… my on-stage talk, my book, my podcast.... basically everything. When people walk away from me, I want them to think this about themselves "I'm already this shit!"
You don't need to change yourself or become someone else. You've already got everything it takes deep down inside of you. That gift, it's always been there. It's just that when you're so close to it… when you are yourself… it can be hard to see it.
So today, I remind. If there is one thing I want people to walk away from a conversation from me knowing, it this: YOU ARE ALREADY THE SHIT.
Your ideas? The bomb.
Your vision? Limitless.
Your value? Immense.
Your truth? Spot on.
Your desires? Vital.
Your joy? Essential.
Your silliness? Life giving.
Your smile? Radiant.
Your butt? Hot.
Your heart? Genuine.
Your talents? Incomparable.
Your gifts? Magical.
Must I go on? I can if you want me to. Email me, tell me what's going on for you and I'll tell you alllll the ways YOU are the shit.
Question for ya…..
How would you live your life today if you KNEW without a doubt YOU are the shit?
What would you wear?
What would you say?
What would you eat?
What would you do?
WHO WOULD YOU BE?
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