No amount of external validation will ever make up for the lack of belief you have in yourself.

When women decluttered their spaces, they started making braver decisions in the rest of their lives.

I recently interviewed Kate Ferrian, founder of Simply Become It, on the Simply Own It podcast.

Her story is an intense version of something I also see in more subtle ways everyday with women who are feeling ‘fine’ in their life, but losing their sense of self and zest for life:

The feeling is hard to define - is it empytiness or overwhelm? Lack of fulfillment or an over-abundance of giving all of you to everyone else?

On paper, you’re killing it. You’re the responsible one, the capable one, the woman everyone trusts to “just handle it.” You’ve built a career, a business, a life that looks stable and like everything you wanted from the outside.

And yet, your days feel like you’re just crossing town.

You can set as many income goals as you want.
You can choose a “word of the year” and buy a fresh planner.

But if “more money” in your mind equals:

• more late-night emails

• more stress

• more responsibility with zero support

…your nervous system will quietly resist every opportunity that comes your way.

It’s not the money that feels bad.
It’s the way you’re earning it.

This blog is born out of a conversation with my sobriety mentor and friend, Jenny Jechter — a modern sobriety coach who helps women in the gray area of drinking. The women who don’t identify as alcoholics… but also don’t fully love the way alcohol is owning their time, energy, and choices.

You don’t have to burn it down.
You just have to be willing to renegotiate the relationship.

Yesterday, I was on a call with a group of coaches, and someone shared new data about the coaching industry in 2025. One question stopped me in my tracks:

“What’s the number one way you plan to grow your business this year?”

And guess what the top answer was?

Getting more certifications.

Pardon my language, but… what the hell?

I couldn’t believe it—and yet, I totally could. Because this is exactly what keeps so many talented people stuck.

Meet Breanne Kennedy, founder of Thrive Consulting and one of my 1:1 clients. She didn’t rage-quit. She didn’t do a “catch me if you can” sprint out of corporate. She planned her exit, honored what was working, and still chose more.

Tired of outsourcing your healing and your confidence to everyone else? In this conversation with Soul Forward Method founder Heidi Hazen, we explore what it really means to heal at a soul level and finally have your own back.

The pros—the ones building sustainable, freedom-filled businesses—aren’t constantly starting over. They’re not burning it all down every time something feels “off.” They’re mastering what works. Because maturity in business looks like staying the course long enough to let your results compound.

So, yes. Ruin the friendship.
Be the happy one. The confident one. The “I actually love my life” one.

If that ruins the friendship, then maybe it wasn’t built on authenticity to begin with.

We’ve been sold this lie that when you’re stuck, you just need to “push through.”
But pushing harder when you’re drained is like hitting the gas on an empty tank.
You’re not going anywhere faster — you’re just burning fumes.

Here’s the 3-step recipe I use (and teach my clients) to get out of a funk faster…

Business will mirror back every place you’re hiding. Say the bold truth online? Cool. Now say it at home. In your DMs. In the meeting. How you do one thing is how you do everything. When you stop managing reactions, you start leading—clients feel it, your pricing reflects it, and your results follow.

And here’s what really stung — we weren’t leaving because of my husband’s schedule (which I’d learned to plan around). We were leaving because of mine. That felt like a gut punch. I was furious. The audacity that my work — my calendar — had the power to pull me away from my own life. “Never again will my job decide how much fun I’m allowed to have with my family.”

We all have those moments where something inside of us whispers—or screams—never again. For me, one of those life-altering moments came in 2015, in a tiny Kentucky town, with a pile of moving boxes, a long-distance love story, and a sudden realization: I will never again build my life around someone else’s job.