When we don’t own own wins, we can’t repeat them… and we certainly can’t amplify them.
When we don’t own your wins, it becomes the equivalent of saying:
“Oh, I just got lucky.”
“Oh, it just sorta happened.”
“Oh it was a fluke.”
No, no & NO. You created that. How?
Well, if you owned it, you could investigate, learn & know.
Passing your wins off to fate or chance isn’t just a disservice to your future success, it robs all the people who could be impacted by you that experience.
Recently I had a win that felt huge, but yet I had a hard time owning it. I had my highest revenue month happen in one day in my business. And, I wouldn't allow myself to own that, to celebrate it.
Well, she's on a payment plan so it doesn't count… that was going to happen anyway.
Well, her payment got delayed so it just happened to be made on the same day.
See what I mean? In convincing myself that I literally had nothing to do with this day, I wasn't able to allowing myself to see the role I played in making this happen. I wasn't examining the ways in which I can create that again. I wasn't SEEING how it all matters, the connections, the conversations, the processes, the tools, the yes's to the intuitive hits. I actually did create that day, and I can create it again, and again, and again when I allow myself to see how I was instrumental in making it happen:
The same is true for you and your wins. Not just your wins, but your gifts. Sure, the world would be fine and remain status quo if you don't own them… we'll go on as-is not knowing the difference… but man, imagine if you did own them. Imagine the ripple that could create. Imagine the fellow soul you could help ignite.. and then imagine what they could do. See what I'm saying?
In a world of oh it’s selfish to gloat, to brag, to talk about the good I do we aren’t doing anyone any good. What if being selfish and owning the shit out of your wins was truly the most selfless thing you could be doing?
Our wins create a ripple effect beyond our knowing. Own them & create more of them… let your ripple effect create waves.
Let's Play "What If"
I want you to feel so much when you read this message. I want you to feel a bold sense of calm. I want you to feel strong and empowered. I want you to be so ignited that you shut the screen down and go forth with the decision you’ve been working through. I want you to know that you know exactly what is right.
I want to remind you of your own strength and intuition. I want you to see you as the resilient being you are. I want you to know that you can do hard things, and that the hardest things in life sometimes create the most light and clarity.
To the woman doubting yourself, I see you.
To the woman who is finally realizing “I DO have what it takes,” I see you.
To the woman tired of being told what to do, I see you.
To the woman who is denying herself the true answer of “what do you want?” I see you.
To the woman who has no clue of the ripple effect of sharing her gifts with the world, I see you and I HONOR you.
What if we all got a little braver?
What if we all got a little bit more comfortable with the unknown?
What if we started to realize the black of the unknown leads to the brightest light?
Honestly, what if?
Today I challenge you to play the game of “what if” but not the way you’ve been playing it before. No more asking “what if I fail? What if they think I’m dumb? What if they think I’m too much?” No more playing the game that way. We all lose when we play the game that way.
What if (see what I did there?) we played the game a little differently?
What if we played the “what if question” where we veer down the path of success and possibility?
A new version of "what if"
What if I succeed?
What if it actually is possible?
What if I already have what it takes?
What if I shared my truth?
What if I could handle the waves that my truth makes?
What if I was so good at making decisions?
What if I could have everything that I want?
What if I already know exactly what I want?
What if I allowed myself to dream?
Do you feel the difference between the two “what if” games? There’s clearly a version where no one wins, and there’s a version where everyone wins.
The cool thing about it is that YOU get to choose the version you play. Every single day you get to decide what version of the “what if” game you play.
Today on International Women’s Day I hope you feel the energy in this message. The truth being shared to you from my bones. I hope you allow yourself a moment to let your value sink all the way in, to see your worth is beyond measure and that playing the winning version of "what if" is the ONLY way to go.
Knowing your value is a big deal. Knowing your worth doesn’t actually hinge on so much that we tend to think it does is liberating.
You are a force. A force to be reckoned with.
You are a wild woman with all the gifts that need to be shared.
You are YOU and that is magic… absolute, blissful, freakin’ magic.
Share this message loud and proud. Share it with the world. Share it with your sisters, whether they’re your family-sisters, friend-sister or soul sisters.
May my possibility-mind be so contagious with the world that it inspires at least one woman to fully pounce feet first into her power.
Let’s do this.
3 Encounters + 6 Lessons
Earlier this week I was on a call with a handful of women. It was a scheduled call as a part of a membership community I’m in.
In the beginning of the call, the eight or so of us in attendance were just chatting and connecting. One woman is only 1,000 km from Ukraine, the battle field so many of us are distanced from yet very emotionally impacted by.
To hear her voice shook me. Not that long ago, she had vibrancy and joy in her voice, and in this call it was very somber. It was hard to understand her as the connection was choppy. That also spoke volumes to me.
She said “we are safe physically, but emotionally disturbed.”
And yet here she was on this call. Here she was taking a break from her reality to learn about something not at all related to her current situation, and to connect with other women. It was a break, a reprieve from the hardships she is experiencing.
Also, earlier this week I spoke with a woman who lost a dear friend and business support. They were each other's “go to” for questions and celebrations. They were a connection to one another in this often lonely world of entrepreneurship.
This person, with a huge gift to share with the world, was hurting & in tears on our call. She was lost. She wasn’t feeling the will to keep going in her work. She simply just didn’t want to. But yet, she does want to keep going so badly, and that’s where the tears came from.
"How??" was her question.
She has a want to keep going, yet there is a lack of knowing what to do next or how to handle this grief being experienced. She does want to keep her business going, not just for her but also for the legacy of her friend. But sometimes feeling lost can get confused as a lack of desire to keep going.
In connecting with her I was flooded with memories of the pain and the lost feeling I felt when my dad passed. There was a huge lack of desire to do anything at all. I flashed back to the days when all I could do was stare out the window and just be in a daze. “How is the world still going on when my world has stopped?” And yet, it still keeps going, it keeps spinning ‘round and ‘round.
Eventually I found my way again. Eventually I found my drive. Eventually, I WANTED to be me again.
Another conversation I had this week was with a fellow coach, and was entirely different from the other two shared above. She showed up vibrant, excited and with vigor to move forward. She’s a bold and powerful force.
We met for an exciting rebrand and it was a high energy, soul-nourishing conversation of possibility, hope and love for what we both do. Our conversation was all about the future- vibrancy, abundance, joy, desire, FUN, life. It was a light in my day and yet there’s still so much depth within this special encounter.
All three of these conversations had a common theme running through them. That theme was resiliency.
Resiliency doesn’t always mean that you’re beaten up, tattered and worn down. Resiliency is showing up as YOU, as-is. Resiliency is knowing that sometimes the world is just a dark gray place yet there is so much brightness and color to be shared.
I share these three recent encounters in my week to say all this:
This isn’t the time to sit back and hope for happier times to put your dreams into action. This isn’t the time to think that what you do doesn’t matter or to think “who am I to share this with the world?”
This is the time to double down and to go all in. This is the time that the world needs your light and your gifts more than it ever has. Imagine a world if more people went all in on what they really wanted to do, and showed up fully unapologetic as themselves with all their magnificent gifts on display. It would literally be the best thing ever.
Today I dare you, I challenge you. Take a step forward. Do the next right thing to bring your dreams into reality. Why wait? Why not now? The world needs your light and vibrancy.
Do you want help and support in doing this? Book a consult today! I'm all about going all in, and I know you can do it too!