Recently someone asked me to share my beliefs, values and passions outside of my business as they felt it was important to know a coach they’d be working with closely.
Truthfully, my personal beliefs and values are also my business values. Perhaps that is what makes me a quirky business coach.
Here’s the truth: I’m a mom of two little kiddos, and married to a college baseball coach, so we are in the thick of it all, tantrums, sweet snuggles and all the in-between. I’m passionate about having our kids see their parents get to do what they love everyday.
I want my kids to see it’s possible for them because their parents are doing it now. With that said, I also value disconnecting from our work when that is over to have present time with our kids and family. Our present time and attention is powerful.
When I’m a present mom, I’m an awesome Mom. When I’m a present wife, I’m an amazing wife. When I'm a present coach, I am an awesome coach. Heck, even when I’m present when making a meal, they sometimes turn out pretty decent.
I believe that how we do one thing is how we do everything.. Whether it is in our relationships with others, our relationship with ourself, our relationship with food, our health, our business, etc.
Are you getting triggered by something someone else is doing or saying? Perhaps that’s a direct reflection of something in your life or business that you’re avoiding.
I believe we are all a little bit afraid of our own potential and that we are actually limitless beings. That can be scary because so often we base our belief on our evidence, like “I’ve actually never had XYZ so I don’t actually know if it’s attainable.” Having your own back is literally the most powerful, freeing and liberating feeling in the world, with a side of sweaty palms, at first.
I believe our lives are richer when we can just fully be ourselves, and in doing so we can fully see others as the magic that they are. We hold less judgement if someone is doing something “the right way”, less seeing lack in ourselves and therefore seeing lack in others. When we love the heck out of ourselves, we can love others more fully, and love all of life’s pleasures more fully as well.
I’m passionate about creating a calm mind & having presence because it’s the little tiny moments that make our lives truly amazing.
I FOCUS ON LIVING
My dad passed away very suddenly and unexpectedly 5 years ago which has created many profound lessons in my life, influenced the legacy I want to create, offered me the experience of navigating grief, living through trauma, and truthfully it makes me think about death daily. I don’t think about dying, but rather LIVING your life fully alive NOW in this very moment.
I also feel that we just know who we are energetically aligned with. We don’t need the resume, list of facts, etc…we just know. There is deep power in our knowing. Our intuition is powerful. And, I bet you just know, too.
Another thing that likely makes me a quirky business coach is the number of unpopular opinions that I have.
Truth be told, the more I tell people these opinions the more “yassss!” responses I get from people. Yes, yes with an “a,” you know, the kind where people sing it from their soul. Yassss!
I believe you can have it all. Whatever “all” is to you, you can have it. With that thought I also believe there is a misconception that having it all means that we are all places, showing up perfectly at one time. No. For me, having it all is being so in the moment of what you’re doing and being fully present and aware. That can look completely different for some people.
I don’t believe that “niching down” can often be the scapegoat of avoiding just putting yourself out there. How can you know who you’re truly helping if you’re not actually helping anyone or telling them you can help them. I don’t believe that your niche is fully decided by you, but rather it evolves and emerges through the people that you work with.
When you show up as a person who can help someone, the right people will raise their hands to work with you, and then it’s up to you to pay attention to the themes. You don’t truly define your niche until you start casting your wide net.
I believe when you’re fully you, your business will shine brighter than ever before. There is an immense energy backing a person who is showing up exactly as themselves, fully unapologetic.
We are all a little afraid to show ourselves fully and to be seen as being yourself is an extremely vulnerable thing to do. To finally rid yourself of the fear of other people’s opinions takes work- deep, deep work. But the rewards? Mmmm… they are everything.
I believe that the wrong way to run a business is anyone’s else’s way. Anything done with a big “should” feeling is actually a huge no. You created your own business for a reason, and one of those reasons was to do it your way.
So, why let anyone else tell you what to do? We can take input, suggestions and ideas but at the end of the day you are your own authority over your life and business so you get to question “who said?” anytime you start doing something that doesn’t feel right.
I believe one conversation can change your life. Hello? That’s why I’m a coach! I believe words are powerful, especially words taken out of your brain and spoken to someone who is fully listening and holding space for you. Just the mere act of someone asking you “why?” or “what do you want?” can truly be the catalyst for someone making a decision they’ve been stumbling over for a long time, or it can interrupt years of a false truth holding them back.
I believe the hardest things in life are actually happening FOR you. This one stung for a long time when I first realized it. “You mean to tell me that my Dad dying happened FOR me? You mean to tell me that XYZ (insert your toughest thing you’ve ever lived through) happened FOR me?”
Yes, it’s a tough one to swallow and truthfully I’m still digesting it. However, this thought alone has helped carry me through obstacles big and small. It allows me to step back and ask “what is this experience really trying to tell me?”
I believe that the morning routine is overrated…what about the night before? Seriously, we put the morning routine on a pedestal, but how do you prepare for the morning? The night before.
I believe when we approach our work and life with curiosity is when we have the most fun. I always tell my clients that curiosity is my favorite feeling. Take the sentence “I don’t know where to start” for example. When associated with the feeling of overwhelm, we freeze. However, when we choose to feel curiosity, that daunting sentence now becomes a playground. “If I did know where to start, what would I do first?” Can you feel the shift?
I believe people place too much value in finding the right system to bring their business to the next level. Yes, systems are amazing to utilize and great tools to implement into your business, and you’re only as good as the systems you use. So, if you’re not working on you, creating absolute belief in yourself, your product and your clients or customers then the system won’t take you near as far as it could.
I believe we will all truly do what we want. If we want to leave the job we will find a way out. If we want to stay, we will create ways to stay. In my opinion, the great recession was inevitable. I also support the belief that “people don’t leave their job, they leave their boss,” however, what’s not taken into consideration is that people will also say yes to their dreams and that has nothing to do with their boss.
This is me, this is who I am, this is what makes me the quirky business coach. Want to hang out? Grab a spot on my calendar and let’s talk about your quirks: https://calendly.com/livewellwithkell/30-minute-coffee-chat