Should is a word in our vocabulary that's a hard one to knock.  It has likely influenced more in your life than you've ever realized.  

Should shows up in sneaky ways. 

Should creates judgement upon ourselves.  It's implies that we aren't ____ enough.  It implies that we need to improve ourselves and do better. 

You've been on the rat race of the things you "should" do and likely in doing so you are straying further and further from the YOU that needs to be amplified.  

You "shouldn't" do anything.  When you come to any circumstance with that thought it feels yucky.  "I should give write a thank you."  "I should give a gift." "I should eat healthier." "I should workout in the mornings."  Should, should, should. 

What if instead you replaced the word should with the words want, desire or need.  That carries much more personal power.  That carries so much greater energy. 

"I should write a Thank You." ----> "I want to express my gratitude."
"I should give a gift." ----> "I desire to make this person feel loved." 
"I should eat healthier" ----> "I desire to nourish my body in a way that feels good." 
"I should workout in the mornings." ----> "I desire to create energy in me through movement." 

Do you feel the difference? 

So, how do we take that a stop looking outward for "shoulds" in our life, and really become "me" amplified.  

1) Observe
First, observe when "should" comes up throughout your day, and investigate that neutrally. "I should lose some weight" is a thought that came from looking in the mirror.  What you saw in the mirror is cellulite on your legs.  What if instead you just WITNESSED that cellulite.  "I see you.  There you are.  And you mean nothing about me." 

2) Own
Own who you are.  Own those "flaws" you think about yourself. They mean nothing.  Rather they are a factor of what makes you you.  There is no love or hate within the owning... it just is.  For me, for example, I'm a little messy sometimes.  I procrastinate and wait until the last minute.  I have cellulite on my legs too.  

Great. Own that. Don't change that.  Own it and then dig deeper with it. 

3) Respect
Should makes us battle against ourselves.  Instead we want to respect the person we are.  Respect the body that has cellulite on it.  Respect yourself in the journey.  Respect your boundaries.  For the example in the video, I respect that I can't stay up past 8:00 to have a deep-life conversation.  Out of respect for myself with that, I set up my schedule accordingly.  With that personal respect, comes outward respect.  My husband knows and respects that about me.  

When we observe, own and respect things about ourselves, we are likely going to respect others as well. 

4) Embrace.  
My friend, that is YOU.  Embrace that shit.  Sometimes you get messy... how can you make that mess shine?  Sometimes you put things off to the last minute... how has that served you in the past? 

When we embrace who we are fully we shine, we become a magnet. 

You don't need to improve (see the word CHANGE) yourself.  Rather let's amplify ourselves. When you do so, your energy will be through the roof, and you'll be a magnet for others.  

Ready to fully embrace YOU and live life fully?  Reach out, and schedule a free 1:1 Breakthrough Session today! 

First grade, I remember it well.  I don’t remember our art teacher’s name but I know she was blonde, had glasses and was totally quirky.  

We had a project to do.  We had to make little piggy puppets for a Three Little Pigs puppet performance. 

There were some in the class that just weren’t that into it.  They hurried through the project and then messed around in the room, playing and getting into things.  Man, bless the heart of all those art teachers out here.   

But me?  Heck no.  I was lost in the creation of it.  He had blue denim overalls with yellow buttons, a plaid shirt and the cutest swirly tail.  While the rest of the class was all done, I worked on that little project up until the second the bell rang. Details, details, details… I made that piggy the best in class. 

Looking back on this now I see two things that really stick out:
1 ) Being a perfectionist.  I had to make it perfect.  So often we look at being a perfectionist as bad, but what if instead it was something that just is.  It's a thing about us.  We love getting lost in the details.

2) I loved to create. When I create I don’t care what else is going on around me. It becomes my obsession.  

That’s how I’ve always been… I get lost in putting things together with my hands.  I love a good project. I love a messy process knowing I can clean it all up in the end.  It never mattered to me how it got done… but the fact that I was making something all mine. 

It’s no wonder looking back that this is something I carry with me today-- making things.  I love it.  This is me.  This is who I am.   I'm a perfectionist with some things, and a total mess in the process.  You can create amazing things AND be messy.  This is who I help as a coach. 

I see you creators out there.  You love to make things, you want to share things with the world and you also wonder “who would want this?”  Trust me.  The world wants your gifts and talents.  Put them on full display and do so proudly.  Not only does the world want your gifts they also want YOU fully, not a watered-down version of you, but Y.O.U.  When you do what you love, you shine.... aside from the creations you create they want you, the creator.​

​Journal Prompt Questions

1. If you could wake up one day and have the whole darn day to yourself, what would you do? 
2. When you were little, what did you LOVE to do? 
3. What sort of things do you get so lost in that you forget to eat or HATE that you have to stop to pee? 

**P.S. I'm here to help.  What is a mess you're hiding from? What is something you so badly want to be doing with your time, but feel pulled to be doing all the other things?  Let's talk.  Set up a free breakthrough session with me so we can help you start living fully alive once and for all! ​